How do you know when it is the right time to bring in some extra care for your parents or even still how do you persuade your parents that they need some help…
For an elderly person to admit they need help would mean they can’t take care of themselves anymore, and no one wants to lose their independence. Usually, the responsibility falls on family members to recognize the signs that an aging parent might need some extra help with daily living tasks, but this doesn’t necessarily mean that your loved one has to move into a care home. They may just need some extra help in their home. Here are some questions to ask to determine if your elderly parents may need some extra care:
• Are your parents able to take care of themselves?
Pay attention to your parents’ appearance. Failure to keep up with daily routines such as bathing, tooth brushing, and good hygiene is a sign that they may be experiencing feelings of depression or have a physical ailment
• Are your parents able to take care of their home?
Are the lights working or is the laundry piling up? Is the garden overgrown? Any changes in the way your parents do things around the house could provide clues to their health.
• Are your parents safe on the road?
Driving can be challenging for older adults. If your parents become confused while driving or you’re concerned about their ability to drive safely, it might be time to stop driving.
• Have your parents lost weight?
Losing weight without trying could be a sign that something’s wrong. Weight loss could be related to many factors, including difficulty with cooking, loss of taste or smell or perhaps it is the signal of an underlying condition such as malnutrition, dementia, or depression.
• Are your parents still social?
It’s important to talk to your parents about their activities. Are they connecting with friends? Have they maintained interest in hobbies and other daily activities? Are they involved in organizations or clubs? Or have the circumstances changes and their need for companionship needs to be met.
Even if you don’t live near-by to your parents but are concerned about their health and wellbeing, there are many things you can do to ensure your parents’ are getting the support they need. Share your concerns with them and address any issues that you feel may become bigger if they aren’t dealt with early on – Include your parents in the process – this may require several conversations. Encourage regular medical check-ups, consider home care services, and seek help from local agencies.
Also remember don’t be hard on yourself and feel that you are failing because you cannot do everything for them – this anxiety will not help you or your parents. There is help and a plan can be put in place.
Here are just a few of the services that might help with some of the issues outlined above:
- Personal Care – including help with bathing, grooming, dressing, eating, and bedtime routines.
- Home Help – support with light housekeeping, washing, meal preparation, making beds and more.
- Companionship – many of our clients are simply looking for company and friendship.
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If you are interested in arranging home help for a loved one, get in touch to discuss your needs further.